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Gaf my life

Gratitude
Appreciation
Forgiveness

I have come to the conclusion that these 3 things are what has been missing, and what has been causing me problems. I vow to work on it!

Gratitude helps you to grow and expands; gratitude brings you and laughter into your life and into the lives of all those around you.
- Eileen Caddy

The aim of life is appreciation; there is no sense in not appreciating things; and there is no sense in having more of them if you have less appreciation of them.
- Gilbert K. Chesterton

Inner peace can be reached only when we practice forgiveness. Forgiveness is letting go of the past, and is therefore the means for correcting our misperceptions.
- Gerald Jampolsky

The four things that matter

1. Please forgive me.
2. I forgive you.
3. Thank you.
4. I love you.

The four pillars for better relationships and a better life.

Change

Only one thing has to change for us to know happiness in our lives: where we focus our attention.
- Greg Anderson

No one is in control of your happiness but you; therefore, you have the power to change anything about yourself or your life that you want to change.
- Barbara de Angelis

If you don't like something, change it. If you can't change it, change your attitude. Don't complain.
- Maya Angelou

Observe constantly that all things take place by change, and accustom thyself to consider that the nature of the Universe loves nothing so much as to change the things which are, and to make new things like them.
- Marcus Aurelius

Mr. Mister- Kyrie

People

People will not remember what you said to them.
People will not remember what you did for them.
People will remember how you made them feel.
It's not rational, it's not reasonable.
But I have finally learned. That's the way it is.

Intimacy is a legitimate need

You can survive without it, but you cannot thrive and become the best version of yourself. Intimacy is the one thing that a person cannot live happily without. Intimacy requires that we allow another person into our heart, mind, body, and soul. It is a complete and unrestrained sharing of self.

A successfull relationship is identifying the legitimate needs of the other person. Collaborating in the most dynamic way to know and tend to each other's legitimate needs. Acceptance of each other's different opinions, revelation of hopes and dreams, honoring of each other's unique feelings, and awareness of each other's faults, fears, and failures.

Four aspects of the human person: Physical, emotional, intellectual, and spiritual. All must be discovered, and then met. Through the discovery of each other's legitimate needs, we can begin to build a lifestyle that helps each other become the best version of ourselves.

Cast Away

Chuck Noland: We both had done the math. Kelly added it all up and... knew she had to let me go. I added it up, and knew that I had... lost her. 'cos I was never gonna get off that island. I was gonna die there, totally alone. I was gonna get sick, or get injured or something. The only choice I had, the only thing I could control was when, and how, and where it was going to happen. So... I made a rope and I went up to the summit, to hang myself. I had to test it, you know? Of course. You know me. And the weight of the log, snapped the limb of the tree, so I-I - , I couldn't even kill myself the way I wanted to. I had power over *nothing*. And that's when this feeling came over me like a warm blanket. I knew, somehow, that I had to stay alive. Somehow. I had to keep breathing. Even though there was no reason to hope. And all my logic said that I would never see this place again. So that's what I did. I stayed alive. I kept breathing. And one day my logic was proven all wrong because the tide came in, and gave me a sail. And now, here I am. I'm back. In Memphis, talking to you. I have ice in my glass... And I've lost her all over again. I'm so sad that I don't have Kelly. But I'm so grateful that she was with me on that island. And I know what I have to do now. I gotta keep breathing. Because tomorrow the sun will rise. Who knows what the tide could bring?

Get Slim

Blue Oyster Cult - Veteran Of The Psychic Wars

You see me now a veteran of a thousand psychic wars
I’ve been living on the edge so long
Where the winds of limbo roar
And I’m young enough to look at
And far too old to see
All the scars are on the inside
I’m not sure if there’s anything left of me

Don’t let these shakes go on
It’s time we had a break from it
It’s time we had some leave
We’ve been living in the flames
We’ve been eating up our brains
Oh, please don’t let theses shakes go on

You ask me why I’m weary, why I can’t speak to you
You blame me for my silence
Say it’s time I changed and grew
But the war’s still going on dear
And there’s no end that I know
And I can’t say if we’re ever...
I can’t say if we’re ever gonna to be free

Don’t let these shakes go on
It’s time we had a break from it
It’s time we had some leave
We’ve been living in the flames
We’ve been eating out our brains
Oh, please don’t let theses shakes go on

You see me now a veteran of a thousand psychic wars
My energy’s spent at last
And my armor is destroyed
I have used up all my weapons and I’m helpless and bereaved
Wounds are all I’m made of
Did I hear you say that this is victory?

Don’t let these shakes go on
It’s time we had a break from it
Send me to the rear
Where the tides of madness swell
And been sliding into hell
Oh, please don’t let shakes go on
Don’t let these shakes go on
Don’t let these shakes go on

Regrets

I should have no objection to go over the same life from its beginning to the end: requesting only the advantage authors have, of correcting in a second edition the faults of the first.
- Benjamin Franklin

Lies...

Have you ever walked by a woman at a bar and she stuck her nose up at you? Have you ever talked to a woman and she told you that she could perform the best oral sex you ever had, only to be let down? Are you the type that when you first talk to a woman, you try to prove how big of a stud you are? Women hate that, they really do. What is worse is a man who brags but can't perform? Women don't like men who brag. They hate it because most of it is lies. You lie to them and tell them you work in a big office building, but forget to tell them you are the janitor. You tell them you have a huge penis, maybe that is because you figure that they won't actually see it.

You lie to them about how much money you have in the bank, but by the time you pay your child support you end up eating rice and beans for every meal.

Women don't want a man that lies to them. They want someone who is honest, warts and all. Well, that is a figure of speech, they don't want a man with warts. I think you get what I am saying.

One lie builds up to many lies. It isn't good to lie to a woman as soon as the relationship takes ground. It makes no sense, you can't keep up with all the lies. She will find out some day. She will find out that the car you pick her up in every Friday on your dates, is your buddies car and not yours.

It is important that in the blooming stages of a relationship that the foundation is good. I think of it like this. A mushroom needs sterile fertile ground to grow. If the ground is polluted, the mushroom won't grow. Love is a lot like that mushroom.

If you start a relationship based on lies, it will crumble down. Let me give you another example. If you build a house and the foundation isn't strong, the house will become tilted and will sink in. The same is true with a relationship.

If you feel that it is only a one night stand, lie through your teeth if you need to. Chances are she already has made up her mind before she left the house that she wanted to get laid. So, what does either of you have to loose? You both are looking for sex, as long as sex is the outcome, everyone is happy. Of course, don't lie and tell you are clean if you aren't. That is plainly wrong.

I was once in a relationship that was built on nothing but lies. We both lied to each other like crazy. I told her I was rich and she told me she was a stripper. Neither of them were true. She lied and told me that she had sex with tons of women, ended up none of that was true. She made the story up about the lesbianism to turn me on. To try to reel me in.
I told her that I had a great job and I was making tons of money. I wasn't making shit for money, I just had a nice saving built up. She told me things so that I would feel sorry for her. She would tell me that she had nothing to eat in her house, all the while she was gaining weight like crazy.

Everything went smoothly in the relationship. The sex was great. Wait, the sex was fantastic. She was so good in bed that I couldn't believe it. She rocked my world every time. It was kind of hard waking up next to a woman that I knew the whole relationship was based on lies. The thing was, the sex was so good, that I didn't care.

One day it all went to hell. It happened faster than I could think. All of her and my lies built up to a brick wall of frustration. I was out of the relationship in a matter of no time. I couldn't believe how fast it ended.

What happened was, my feelings were hurt. My whole life had been crushed. I actually was dumb enough to fall in love with this woman. I'm not sure how that happened, but maybe because the sex was so great. I don't know.

I spent years and years with a broken heart because of this. Now, I don't feel this way. I know that since everything was based on lies, that the relationship couldn't have went anywhere. But, for years I felt like shit. I really did. It ruined my life and I couldn't understand why.

If this story isn't enough to make you wash your mouth out with soap every time you lie to a woman, I don't know what will. You have to keep in mind the long term effects of your lies. She will see them eventually. She will see that you don't have all that money that you claim you have. She will see that your penis is small compared to how you boast about it. She will see that you don't have a clue in this world how the real world revolves. She will only see your lies.

This isn't a good idea. If you feel like you have to lie to get a woman, she isn't worth having. If you have to be anyone except yourself, then you need to look for a woman that you can be. All it will do is cause you problems later on in the relationship.

Think of it like this... If you have to lie, then there is a problem right off the bat. For example, if you have to lie about how much money you make. Chances are this woman is a gold digger and she is worthless. All she will do is take all of your money and run. She will run when she realizes that you don't have any money to take.